Body Integrity Identity Disorder Helps Me Understand My Transgender Partner (Mental Stress Of Having Unwanted Limb)

Transgender brains are a hot topic nowadays, but I never thought that researching concerning this topic would lead me to an issue of body integrity identity disorder which kind of come as awful to me, questioning how these people think.

Due to social norms and constraints, folx from queer and trans communities are typically compelled to examine their gender and sexual/romantic identities far more often than people who identify as straight or cisgender. — Kate Stewart, PhD


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Mental Struggle Of A Mother Dying Of Cancer

They say that dying of cancer is the sweetest and best way to die, but no matter what, death is still painful for those that will be left behind and to the one who is going away, especially if she is a mother.  A mother who worries about the welfare of her family that brings her fears, anxiety, and sadness even in her deathbed.




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Extreme Cases of Hoarding

Collecting or keeping things is part of our human nature; we do this for us to preserve the sentimental value behind everything we keep. We collect items such as dolls, cars, watches and the likes because it gives us the satisfaction of seeing things that we like. The art of collecting involves organized and careful handling of things, which makes the collections very pleasing to the eyes. Collecting things with purpose is done in a more organized and rational way.


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Alcohol Withdrawal: Getting Out Is Never That Easy At All



“From now on, I’ll have to stop drinking!” Sounds good to hear. It’s like giving you another chance of having a healthy lifestyle. However, how positive as it may appear, getting through it requires mental toughness and self-determination of calling it quits for good. Just when you decided to stop drinking excessive alcohol for whatever reasons you may have, comes along the journey that you must go through which may seem unbearable that you might even think of backing out.

Fear of judgement is a powerful deterrent to treatment for individuals struggling with a substance use disorder of any sort, including alcohol. — Jennifer Smith, PhD

Alcohol withdrawal does not just happen overnight. In fact, there are three stages that a person may go through before completely becoming alcohol- free. The first 48 hours of detoxification is the most challenging part because this is when withdrawal symptoms start to peak.

Taking alcohol induces relaxation as it subdues the fight-or-flight reaction of the brain, so by the time that a person started to stop drinking, the body slowly process alcohol substance out from the circulatory the system. If you are dependent on alcohol, the effect of alcohol on the brain’s chemical balance may lead to an abrupt stimulation of the fight or flight mode. This can result in alcohol withdrawal syndrome; worse than a hang-over, hence, understanding the stages of alcohol withdrawal will shed light on what is expected when someone is experiencing withdrawal syndrome.

Mild Form


You believe your negative thoughts to be true, rather than filtering them for more objective realities. As a result, your negative perceptions shape your perception of an event or interaction. — Kim Grevler, LCSW

The early stage of alcohol withdrawal occurs after 8 hours or more not taking alcohol. Commonly, after 12 hours of not consuming alcohol, tremors start to appear, and when coupled with anxiety the condition might become worse. Aside from tremors, a person might also be experiencing moderately minor symptoms which might take up to one to three days or even. The symptoms will vary according to physical or psychological characteristics:


  • Nervousness
  • Feeling down
  • Short-tempered
  • Impatience
  • Mood swings
  • Poor concentration
  • Fatigue
  • Dilated pupils
  • Nightmares
  • Headaches
  • Increased heartbeat
  • Insomnia
  • Loss of craving
  • Unsteady limbs
  • Queasiness
  • Gagging
  • Excessive sweating



Severe Form

People who have been dependent for alcohol for a more extended period might experience severe withdrawal symptoms marked by a sudden increase in blood pressure and hallucination which may appear between 12 to 24 hours of stopping alcohol intake. Symptoms of the early stage might also be apparent at this stage and might worsen during this time. Withdrawal-related seizures are other possible symptoms that may appear. The seizure is known as a generalized tonic-clonic seizure which presents with the stiffness of the body, uncontrolled bowel and bladder control, the difficulty of breathing, jaw or teeth-gritting and uncontrolled tongue or cheek biting.


Without filtering what you say, you might start getting a sense of the thoughts and feelings behind your presenting problem. — Charles Rosen, LCSW

Treatment for alcohol withdrawal usually takes place as an inpatient admission to monitor the changes and safety of the person. A person can have severe complications if this not monitored by a healthcare provider. As the person undergoes the process of detoxification, the physiological aspect takes primary importance. The doctor may still include the giving of alcohol in small amounts so as not to entirely deprive the body of the stimulatory effects of alcohol. As the process continues, the limitation of alcohol intake remains, together with psychological therapy and counseling sessions. The road to recovery may take some time, and everything will depend on the will of the person to stop.



An Overview Of Internet Addiction



In every progress comes a consequence.

We are referring to the digital advancements, specifically the use of the internet, and the adverse effects it brings to our younger generation. Reports on the impact of neurological problems, psychological disorder, and social concerns have busted the lives of teenagers with Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD) (Weinstein et al. 2010). Despite these claims, there is still a deliberation on whether the behavior is considered a mental health concern. In other countries such as China and South Korea, they identify internet addiction as significant public health thus initiative and strategies are placed to regulate and control internet usage.

Then again, the disagreement about the value of internet addiction, most of the medical and mental health professionals believe that internet addiction is a valid disorder and just like another addiction is worthy of much attention and concern (Cook, 2017).

To derive with medical jargon, various terms have been linked to internet addiction – “problematic internet use” (PIU) and “internet addiction disorder” (IAD) (Cook, 2017).

From the terms mentioned above, one can objectively align where the problem is. An average person will use the internet for business, school, or other personal reasons with a limited number or amount of time. The usage does not compromise the person’s other activities and relationships. A positive outcome would be that the internet was used as a tool to improve or enhance social relationships, business and work reasons, and personal improvement. Otherwise, if the effects are the opposite of these situations, then a psychological or behavioral problem exists.

By noting the times you feel tempted to indulge in an addiction, you can begin to bring more awareness to the situation. — Wendy Salazar, MFT

Clues to the Disorder



Since it is not an official psychiatric diagnosis, the following lists are obvious manifestations of persons believed to have an internet addiction.

  • Excessive use of the internet via computer, smartphone, or other digital tablets
  • Sleeping and eating problems brought about by continued internet browsing
  • Having some fear and anxiety when there is a disconnection to the internet such as:
    • Running out of battery
    • Loss of power or wi-fi connection
    • Forgetting the smartphone or gadget somewhere else
    • Feeling naked and incomplete if not holding a smartphone or any digital device Unable to attend to any social commitments
  • Feeling edgy and irritable-if cannot check social media accounts

The process of recognizing there is a problem; increasing motivation to take control; seeking support; and identifying the types of people, environments, and situations that will allow for recovery may, at times, seem impossible. — Deanna Richards, LMHC


Once this is official, the treatment for internet addiction will somehow be like that of other addiction problems. Talk therapy or cognitive-behavioral therapy is best viewed to treat addiction problems. The mind is re-trained to think and make correct decisions regarding some behaviors.



Internet detox is the modern term to discipline oneself from getting rid of internet addiction. Modification of usage is the ultimate goal since internet technology can be helpful in our daily lives. Once the person regains control of his internet time and reasons for using it, then he will be allowed to use any digital tool again.

Also known by various other terms like “digital detox,” “digital Sabbath,” and “unplugging”, the idea behind a digital fast is to voluntarily and deliberately stop using all connected devices – smartphones, computers, tablets, and so on – that plug you to the internet for a pre-specified amount of time. — Utpal Dholakia Ph.D.

Create a schedule and STICK TO IT! Your counselor or therapist will encourage you to develop a plan and schedule for internet usage. As they say, to plan is easy but to follow it will take extra effort and a continuous struggle.

This is not a race. Recovering from addiction problems is not an overnight thing. You will need support from families and friend as you go through this process. Be patient and follow your doctor’s orders.



Cook, S. (2017). Technology and internet addiction: How to recognize it and recover from itComparitech. Retrieved 22 February 2018, from

Gender Dysphoria:  Not Just About Being Gay Or Lesbian Says Therapist

What is Gender Dysphoria?

Gender dysphoria or gender identity disorder is the distress an individual experiences because of feeling uncomfortable with the physical or assigned gender and the gender with which they identify themselves with.  They also feel uncomfortable and troubled with the likely role they have to take with their assigned gender.

The general population views sex/gender as binary categories—male/masculine and female/feminine. In contrast, some scholars and activists argue that both sex and gender extend along a continuum. — David Ludden Ph.D.


Gender Dysphoria In Childhood

Confusion or gender conflict affects some individuals, especially children, in different ways.   It may change the way a person wants to express himself and can influence the way he behaves, he dresses, and the way he portrays his self-image.

One couple with a transgender boy told their story that at age two, their son would refuse to toilet train unless they buy him boxers.  He would refuse to be called in his female name but preferred a boy’s name.   They felt troubled by this, but they accepted and respected their child’s decision to be a boy, no matter what other people would say to them.


After their child’s social transition, they claimed that his life blossomed and their anxiety about his coming to puberty escalated.   They said that it’s a long and challenging journey to parent a transgender child.  They had him see a therapist to guide him, and that made a significant impact on their son’s life, who now is living a happy, well-adjusted life.

But it is a different case for Tony, now an adult, who was not accepted by his family when he tried to tell them about his struggle at a young age of nine, and out of fear of his strict father, he decided to suppress his true feelings.  Although he tried to do his best for his father to accept him, he still can’t come out in the open.   He even got married after college just to please his father.  But despite having an almost perfect family, deep inside he was not happy because he was suppressing his true identity.  He felt depressed because the way he was living did not match the way he felt inside.  He was always thinking about how his life would be better if he could live as a female, that whenever his wife was not around, he would try on her clothes.

Recent evidence indicates that thalates from plastic and polychlorinated biphenyls (PCBs) are one of many factors predicting gender dysphoria, particularly in the case of male-to-female transgenders. — Nigel Barber Ph.D.

Living an upsetting, unhappy life, he sought treatment from a therapist to whom he can be honest about his life plans.   He talked about how much he desired to be the opposite gender but was afraid to upset his father.  Sharing his life with his therapist, he became more sure about becoming a woman, and he began to tell his closest friends about it and even requested them to address him as “she.”  ‘

She is now in the process of working things out with his mental health provider and preparing herself to have the courage to tell her wife.   She started her hormone treatment but has no plan of having surgery.


Acceptance And Respect

People with gender dysphoria are living in a confusing world, and they are in conflict with themselves and the people around them.   Feeling unaccepted and unrespected cause them to be depressed, unhappy, and some even reach the point of contemplating suicide.

The family must be the first one to understand their ordeal.   Studies have shown that children who are experiencing gender dysphoria recover faster and can live a happier and fuller life when the family shows support than those who are hiding in the closet.


A few very misguided clinicians (and families) have attempted to “cure” a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity with things like aversion therapy and labeling the individual as a sex addict (as a way to explain his or her “abnormal” feelings and behaviors). Again, these tactics are nearly always both harmful and counterproductive. — Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW

There are some with gender dysphoria who are satisfied with just doing cross-dress, some want to socially transition, and there are those who want to consider medical options with sex-exchange surgery or hormone treatment.  Socially transitioning includes use of affirmed gender’s pronouns and bathrooms.

Not all individuals who experience gender dysphoria want to have gender reassignment.  Some are fighting for their right to dress the way they want without being judged, to be supported, and treated fairly and equally, and to be accepted by their family and the society with which they belong.

Gender dysphoria is not just about being gay or lesbian says a therapist, but more about being able to come out in the open freely, be accepted and not be judged because they choose a gender they are not born with.


Skateboarding To Recover From Addiction


I have a friend named Joe, who used to struggle with drug addiction, regardless of how many therapists he has seen or how many forms of counseling he has attended. It was like a recurring pattern for him. Joe would tell his family that he wanted to turn a new leaf, then they would ask for referrals from psychologists. Joe could go to therapy for four or five times before feeling the withdrawal symptoms. After that, the drugs would lure him again until such time that he sort of feels awakened and wants to start over again.

In hopes of helping Joe and his family, I looked for alternative ways to recover from addiction. One story I found was that of Tyler Conley, a 24-year-old man in Minnesota who got addicted to opioids at 15. He struggled with treatment as well, but things had gotten better than ever for him when he rekindled his love for skateboarding. Even though he’s not 100% free from the withdrawal symptoms, Tyler can now deal with them without wanting to retake opioids.

If you are like my friend Joe who seems to be in a never-ending battle with drugs, here are some skateboards to buy if you want to try skateboarding to recover from addiction.


Powell Golden Dragon Flying Dragon Complete Skateboard

High praises for Golden Dragon for being able to create a skateboard that is as good as this one. The people who have been skateboarding for decades now have undoubtedly come across some of the finest and grubbiest boards out there. However, this Powell Golden Dragon Flying Dragon Complete Skateboard is one of the best things that you can acquire.

Fans of anything artsy will think that the fire-breathing dragon at the bottom of the maple deck is quite a beauty. Also, you don’t have to worry about the design becoming scratched whenever you go to rocky terrains because it was screen-printed. Its treaded wheels are so firm and efficient, and its grip is fantastic. Anyone can’t help but enjoy the feeling of riding it even when there are bumps on the road.

Zoo York Blue Print Heritage Complete Skateboard

Professional skateboarders love its speed while the beginners are in awe of the stability and durability of this complete skateboard.


What you may admire about Zoo York Blue Print Heritage is that the whole thing can give that feeling that it’s as if you are back in the old days. You know, when skateboarding is just starting to become a big hit. After all, its brand name, Zoo York, is written on every free space of the board, even on its wheels. Furthermore, it does resemble a rolling blueprint with all those markings and lines on it.

It has an incredible grip as well. Even when the rider moves too much on top of it, you will not fall off of it. The trucks’ soft cushioning is after the heart of any skateboarder who wants to move from one direction to another quickly. Whenever you use it, you will almost not need to exert much effort to angle it to the path where you are heading because it is not too difficult to control.

Its hard-rock maple deck is so strong as well that it’s not necessary to get a spare board anytime soon. You will see that it can hold itself on its own with all the hard kickflips and grinds that you may do with this skateboard.


Shaun White Supply Co. Street Complete Skateboard

This cool-looking Shaun White Supply Co. Street Complete Skateboard with a left hand with full six fingers that kind of shows the “Winner” symbol on the deck can genuinely catch your attention. It is made of hard rock maple and more than strong enough to bear any weight.

Aside from being useful if you need to go to school, you may adore how smooth and how fast it glides. Some people said that when they used it the first time on the street park to hang out with their friends, they managed to outrun them with it. Now, they are so jealous of the fact that they own a Shaun White Supply Co. Street Complete Skateboard.

Let me tell you that this skateboard is the real deal for professional and intermediate skateboarders alike. You will be able to feel that you can ride and get off of it still very much alive. Its bearings are designed for more speed; it has aluminum trucks that firmly and effectively grind on when you skateboard. The grip tape can correctly hold your feet on the maple deck as well.

Final Thoughts

Skateboarding to recover from addiction is not the most bizarre thing you can try. Besides, if it’s going to help you get better, you should go for it.

Good luck!

Why You Need To Give Up Porn Addiction



Pornography is an ordinary part of every person’s life. Both genders can find it exciting and entertaining at the same time. It exists for ages, and a lot of people openly accept it as human’s way of identifying, learning, and fascinating themselves. However, too much of it seems to be a clinical problem. There are instances that porn addiction somehow leads to anxiety, depression, and other psychological illnesses as well. With that, let’s talk about some of the reasons why there is a need for giving up porn for good.

Regardless of its level of engagement to things that trigger sexual desire, people would say that the addiction to porn is not a bad thing. Honestly, (just for the benefit of the doubt), porn does not hurt anybody, it does not create emotional and mental torture to anyone, and it doesn’t bring sadness to those who are not interested in it. Therefore, every one of us can agree that it is only a habit one chooses to have. However, a few things happen when you indulge yourself in too much pornography.

Porn addiction develops much like a drug addiction. After an initially rewarding experience with pornography…, individuals may experience uncontrollable urges to obtain sexual satisfaction through that form of entertainment. — Adi Jaffe Ph.D.

Over Stimulation

Porn addicts become over stimulated. Sometimes, they even watch multiple screens of pornographic scenes only to gain visual satisfaction. The action is very compulsive that they find themselves wanting it more. With that, they usually have a hard time searching for the right clip, video, or visual representation that will give them the desire to become a novelty-driven individual. So there is a need to look for quite good enough scenes that can stimulate their physiological function.


For many individuals with a sex addiction, there is an attempt to seek connectedness through the sexual act, without having to connect on an emotional level. — Wendy Salazar, MFT

Denies A Healthy Relationship

As much as all individuals want to believe that porn is a significant factor that contributes to the relationship, particularly sex life, it doesn’t. A lot of people think that it can improve intimacy. But the truth is, it doesn’t. It only locks the person into having an idea that sex is something incomplete without full arousal and thrill. He views the “basics” of sexual intercourse as a representation of an unhealthy relationship because it’s doesn’t support a mentally dirty and kinky act.

Penetration-Focused Practice

Porn has a desensitizing capability where it can make someone believe that it is an excellent way of pleasuring one’s self. There’s this mentality that even though a person only watches some clips of pornographic scenes on the screen, it fulfills the sexual desire. But in reality, porn only promotes a penetration-focused practice. Meaning, there’s entirely no sensation in it at all. It takes away a lot of the natural aspects of intimacy. These include touching, feeling, caressing, kissing, foreplay, hugging, and holding. Therefore, when you watch porn, you won’t care about anything and will only fast-forward everything right at the end of the action.


Pornographic Dependency

Watching porn for the first time can give everybody a one-time unexplained chill and excitement. That’s practically normal for physical and psychological stimuli to react. However, when there is too much indulgement over time, it becomes impossible to remove it instantly. You’ll then realize that you become reliant on it. There’s always this itch inside that pushes you to watch and get on it. There’s a constant seeking for it that entirely wants you to mentally and psychically release it all out.

Keep in mind the risk may be extremely small when they learn the skills of developing true trust, emotional intimacy, and interdependency with others. — Sam Louie MA, LMHC

Reflection On Respect

Pornographic videos, clips, and images can potentially stay forever with the help of the internet. However, your age doesn’t. Therefore, one thing you might accomplish when watching too much porn is having a reflection of respect.  Because the older you get, the more you’ll realize that the porn actors you will be viewing are more likely young individuals. Perhaps it doesn’t hit you when you were the same as their age. But when you get older, and you tend to watch these “kids” doing it, you will recognize that it doesn’t quite feel right at some point.

There are reinforcing and positive things that can eventually happen when you decide to give up porn. As long as you don’t take these bad signs lightly, you will be able to make way for great adjustments. That goes not only for the benefit of your sex life but for your overall human experience as well. Again, porn is not a bad thing. But getting addicted to it is.

Don’t Ignore These Habits Of People With Depression

We know that depression is one of the silent killers that take a toll on a person’s life. And because it is something that nobody takes seriously, many people become afraid to ask for help. They go on with their everyday lives. They live in secrets away from their family and friends. However, there are some small details that people should look out for in a person with depression. Because even though these people might seem normal, they still do things every time they enter a depressive episode.


Every year, millions of people get depressed. That’s the main reason why mental health problems receive recognition all over the world. It becomes the most underrated condition that people experience once or twice in their lives. And even though there’s a broader acknowledgment of its types, there is still a lot of work that needs to be done. That is especially when it comes to diagnosis and medical treatment.

Since only a few people consider asking for help, it becomes a significant concern. That’s because nobody can handle depression just by doing it on their own. For some people, they don’t feel it is safe or comfortable to seek professional help because they assume that depression is not a serious issue. Others view the action as a sign of weakness that if they ask for help, they are incapable of handling their problems. That’s why it is essential for family and friends to spot the signs or habits of a person with depression.

The Habits Someone Develops And Go Through With Depression

Always Wanting To Be Alone

Individuals were suffering from depression sometimes get viewed as “loners.” However, it is not a consistent case. Since depression is a psychological dilemma, these people think a lot. It is part of their routine not to speak, not to listen, not to go out with people, and not to care about what’s currently going on in their surroundings.

New possibilities, especially those inspired by the life force that comes from the innate intelligence in our heart, bodies and nature may be helpful at diminishing or silencing these head noises. —  Michael Picucci, PhD, MAC, SEP

In most cases, they want no one to bother them when they are on the verge of feeling sorry for themselves. These depressed people become obsessed with their agony of figuring out situations and force their way to work things on their own. Though it may create a little change at some point, still, most cases only make the struggle worse.


Pushing People Away

It seems like persons with depression completely give up in communication by continuously isolating themselves. Usually, these depressed individuals ignore calls, stop going to school, afraid to show up at work, and are anxious about getting surrounded by others. The habit of pushing people away is nothing new with these individuals who suffer from depression. However, it takes a toll in life because they consider doing it in a harmful way. That’s because they focus on masking the emotion anger rather than loneliness and sadness. These individuals want nothing to do with any human interaction as well. Yes, other people can see them walk around, talk a little bit, smile and laugh sometimes. But those actions are only portrayals that make people think they are functioning when they entirely are not.

If you get stuck on negative thoughts or feelings about the tasks you’re dreading in the next few days, redirect your thoughts to the present moment rather than anticipating the discomfort you expect to feel in the future. — Sarah Farris, LCPC

Losing All The Energy

Depressed individuals don’t have the energy or desire to do anything productive. They become lazy which translate into procrastination. Usually, they will avoid doing chores and stop taking care of themselves. Because of depression, every daily routine becomes a struggle for them. Depressed people feel that even preparing or cooking a meal is very draining and exhausting. That’s perhaps the reason why they don’t consider eating healthy food as well. They also lack the energy to enjoy eating a tasty meal because of extreme feelings of stress about so many things that they can no longer fit into their heads. From there, they start eating less or lose the appetite altogether.

Always Looking For Distractions

Depressed individuals often look for distractions to help keep their minds occupied at all times. Although some of these activities are not bad such as writing a journal, cleaning the house, or exercising, there are those that make the condition worse. Some people tend to have a habit of hurting themselves such as picking a skin, pulling their hair, banging their heads, and so on. These are severe cases that need immediate attention before it becomes a life-threatening situation.


The meaning of experience is what psychodynamically trained therapists focus on. These therapists, of course, are deeply concerned about the reduction of symptoms and they address how patients cognitively assess their problems and symptoms. — Mary-Joan Gerson Ph.D.

It’s essential to note that depression is a mental illness that can be fatal when not treated properly. It tricked people into thinking that they are not loved, that there’s no reason to continue living, and that life has no meaning. With this, a friend or a family member’s approach is crucial. Though it doesn’t mean these depressed individuals with the mental condition will automatically feel comfortable and open up, it will show them that there are people around who can become aware of the changes they are going through to help.