Moms, Depression, And Anxiety: How To Help Your Children And Yourself


Being the light of the home, the mood of the mother will always take a toll on the whole family’s general aura. When she’s in proper disposition, everything is okay. But if it is the other way around because of depression and anxiety, then, you can expect that something would be glitchy in the family dynamics.

When a mother is depressed or anxious, everything would be in chaos. Being withdrawn, always tired, irritable and unreasonable are just some of the many indicators of depression and anxiety. However, not everybody can see that these are signs of said disorders. Eventually, theories on why the mother had suddenly changed would come in and create some devastating issues that could tear the family apart. That is why it is essential that the mothers should be open on how she feels so that the others could help out if they could. Or get professional help if they deem to see that the mother’s condition is beyond their understanding.

The parents should also be careful in relaying the message to their kids. Children, at a young age, could not comprehend the depths of depression. Thus, it should be explained to them in a very delicate way for them to understand. And always make sure to reassure the kids that their mother can overcome the condition.


A Mother’s Depression And Anxiety Influences A Child’s Behavior

Some studies show that, indeed, the mother’s present mood can directly affect the children. That is why when the mother is in depression, it is very alarming since it can change the children as well. Research revealed that kids develop these emotional and behavioral problems especially if their mother has a mental condition like depression or anxiety.

Women are more prone to depression starting from the day she delivered the child. Postpartum depression can take place and may continue as she struggles on her new role as a mother. The transition is not that easy; thus she undergoes an unusual route and in the end, would be very depressed. This is especially true if the woman’s partner is not that supportive or is out of the picture. And this depression would be in her for years up until the developmental years of the child.

If this is the case, mothers should speak up to the people around her or get medical attention to overcome this condition. This is a need and a must for the sake of the child.

Develop a healthy communication structure by providing honest feedback and recognition of skills. — Teyhou Smyth Ph.D., LMFT

Open Dialogue

Being bluntly open about the condition to the child can also be of help. Candy coating it would be no good. But telling what the situation is all about to a child may be shocking and confusing at first, but in the long run, he would learn to cope up with it.

This is true to all ages. When a child is aware of his mother’s condition, he has this tendency to make things better for the mother. He would do things that could lift the mood like comforting, hugging and even kissing the mother. As young as they may be, they can understand what is going on with their parent.


 Illness means that symptoms alter relationships, sense of self, and the possibility of future planning. What illness means to a patient is deeply impacted by how dependence was tolerated, and care and support were offered throughout the patient’s life. — Mary-Joan Gerson Ph.D.

Ask For Help

Once the symptoms surface, it is best to act on it at once. Ask for help. Identify the people who can help you out, initiate action and get help immediately. Time is of the essence here. Once you take it for granted or set it aside for a while, it could root into more complications that could ruin the relationship between the child and the mother.

Depression On Fathers

Depression occurrence in women is high compared to that of men. But when depression strikes on the fathers, this, also, should not be taken for granted for it can affect the family as well.

If mothers have this postpartum depression, fathers have this perinatal depression. This kind of depression takes place when the father gets frustrated while trying to understand his partner’s postpartum depression. This kind of depression may not have a significant number on the charts, but it does exist.

The good thing is that there are group supports for this. These groups will help the fathers sort out their current emotional and psychological state; help further understand the new situation. Same is also right with mothers.

The body has innate intelligence and grounding in nature, and once we become skilled at accessing our inner wisdom, we may be able to awaken an impressively wiser aptitude, which can allow our hearts and nature to provide an organic inner compass for our next best step(s) forward. —  Michael Picucci, PhD, MAC, SEP

With these findings, it can be said that the root cause of depression amongst parents has to do with parenting. And studies revealed that such dilemma takes place mainly on new parents who are still in shock with the changes and their new roles.

Depression should be combatted. Whatever kind it may be, setting it aside does no good to the person. The effect can be damaging and even fatal in some severe cases. Thus, it is always recommended to seek help at once.